Defriest-Grattan Funeral Homes

DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home, Inc. has been a trusted pillar of compassionate care on the North Fork of Long Island for over half a century. Founded by Marguerite A. DeFriest, the firm has evolved into a multi-location family-owned and operated funeral home serving the communities of Mattituck, Southold, and Shelter Island. Today, the business is guided by funeral directors Joseph S. Grattan and Joseph S. Grattan Jr., who carry forward a tradition of personalized, dignified service that honors the unique life of every individual.

At the Southold location, situated at 51400 Main Road (Route 25), the funeral home offers a welcoming and accessible facility. The property features a wheelchair-accessible entrance and parking lot, ensuring that all families and guests can move comfortably during their time of need. Inside, the funeral home provides multiple chapels, including a main chapel and a smaller chapel with a sitting room, allowing for intimate gatherings or larger services. An onsite chapel is available for services, and the facility is designed to create a peaceful environment for visitation, funeral services, and memorial gatherings.

DeFriest-Grattan offers a comprehensive range of funeral services to meet the diverse needs of the families they serve. Traditional funeral services, cremation options, and memorial services are all available. The funeral home also provides pre-planning services, allowing individuals to make arrangements in advance and ease the burden on loved ones. A prepayment plan is offered to help families lock in current prices and ensure their wishes are honored. Additionally, the staff includes a notary public available on-site, and the funeral home provides specialized support for veterans through its veterans services program.

The business operates three locations to better serve the North Fork community. In addition to Southold, they have a location at 13805 Main Road in Mattituck and a Shelter Island Funeral Home at 23 West Neck Road. This network allows families to choose a convenient location while receiving the same standard of care and attention to detail. The funeral home’s website features obituaries, an online condolence book, and resources for those planning a service.

DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home is committed to providing affordable, respectful, and personalized care. The staff works closely with each family to create a meaningful tribute that reflects the personality and values of the deceased. Whether through a traditional funeral, a celebration of life, or a simple graveside service, the team at DeFriest-Grattan strives to support families with empathy, professionalism, and unwavering dedication. Their long-standing presence in the community and positive reputation—reflected in a 4.3-star rating on Google—underscore their commitment to serving families with integrity and warmth.